This is a quick technique I use to ground myself and make sure I am focusing my energy towards emotions that guide me to my goals.

List your empowering and disempowering emotions. Then explain what needs are being met by doing/experiencing these. Pick the three you experience most of the time.

Empowering Emotions

  • Grateful
  • Passionate
  • Joyful
  • Happy
  • Trust
  • Acceptance 
  • Interest 
  • Admiration

Disempowerment Emotions

  • Anger 
  • Jealous
  • Sadness
  • Distraction 
  • Disgust
  • Boredom
  • Annoyance
  • Fear

My empowering Emotions

  • Grateful 
  • Passionate 
  • Joyful

The needs met by doing this is certainty, love (attention), and confidence.

I feel when i am doing these I am empowering others by being a positive light in people's life, I feel courageous by doing what I know is the harder path.

My Disempowering Emotions

  • Fear
  • Sadness
  • Jealous 

The needs met by doing this is attention, warmth, connection with my best friend, ultimately being closer to the one I love. 


I use these things to try and control the situation and direct it to where I really want it to be. You'll notice that we can achieve great feelings through simplistic processes. 

I challenge you to take 15 min out of your day and mimic what I just presented to you. Being honest with yourself sucks sometimes but I guarantee you have heard it before, the truth will set you free.